Stress is not always panic and tears. Sometimes it looks like “i'm fine”. You function. You work. You mother. You tick boxes. Then your body starts dropping hints (quiet ones).
This list is for the high-functioning stressed woman. Check in and see if any of these feel familiar.
1) You wake up tired, even after “enough” hours of sleep
You sleep, but you don't feel refreshed. You wake up heavy, puffy, foggy, or cranky. Or you wake at 2–4am and your brain starts a meeting.
Why it happens:
Your nervous system stays “on” after bedtime. Your body stays alert and struggles to stay in deep sleep.
Try this today (2 minutes):
- Put your phone in another room for 10 minutes.
- Sit. Close your eyes if it feels safe and comfortable - this turns off external input to the brain so you can relax and go within. Exhale long through your nose (at least 5 seconds).
- Drop your shoulders. Open your mouth wide so its feels like a big jaw stretch, then close it and make sure your jaw is relaxed.
- Repeat: inhale 4, exhale 6, ten rounds (nasal breathing only).
2) You need caffeine to feel like a human
One coffee becomes two. Then three. You need stimulants to get through the day. If you skip it, you feel flat, foggy and useless. Chronic stress drains your baseline energy. Caffeine becomes a crutch. It also wrecks your adrenals when you're already stressed.
Try this today (swap, not quit):
- Keep your first coffee.
- Add water and protein (food not a shake) first.
- Delay first coffee by 30 minutes after food.
Swap any further coffee for one of these when you feel that need for a caffeine hit:
- 5 mins outside in the sun
- 20 squats
- a glass of water
- green tea
- a quick 10min walk
- 10 rounds of nasal breathing (4-5 in, 6-8 out)
3) You crave sugar / carbs / salt
You swear you will eat “better” tomorrow. Chocolate, chips, something crunchy, something sweet. Stress pushes your body to seek quick fuel, and blood sugar swings feel worse under pressure.
Try this today
- Eat a real breakfast and lunch with protein, fibre & healthy fats.
- Set a 12pm reminder: “drink water, eat lunch, step outside”.
- If cravings hit, try a 5-minute walk first - movement changes your state fast.
4) Your patience is gone, and everything feels personal
The kids breathe near you and it feels loud. Your partner asks a normal question and you snap. The sound of them eating sends you into extreme frustration.
You hate this version of you.
Stress narrows your window of tolerance. Your brain reads neutral stuff as threat.
Try this today:
- Step away for 2 minutes. Lock yourself in the bathroom if required.
- Inhale and exhale slowly through your nose 5 times (longer on the exhale).
- Then speak. Not before.
That pause saves relationships.
5) You forget simple things and feel like you're losing it
You walk into a room and blank. You reread the same line three times. You forget what you were saying mid-sentence. You missed an appointment even after the reminder popped up in your phone 2 hours ago.
Stress pulls resources away from focus and memory. Your brain prioritises survival, not sharp thinking.
Try this today (reduce mental load):
- Write two lists only.
- List A: must do today (max 3).
- List B: everything else.
- Finish A. Ignore B.
Clarity beats intensity. Prioritise what is actually important.
6) Your body holds tension like armour
Jaw tight. Neck stiff. Shoulders up. Headaches. Tight chest. Shallow breathing.
You stretch, but it never releases.
Your body braces under stress. It stays in protection mode. Your body holds stress in your fascia.
Try this today
- Put your tongue on the roof of your mouth.
- Drop your shoulders down and back.
- Do 10 slow nose breaths.
- Then roll your shoulders 10 times.
- Bonus:
- Use a trigger ball or tennis ball and put it against the wall, roll your chest, shoulders and back around on it and find the sore spots. Stay on each one with a fair bit of pressure for 2 minutes and breath into it. How relaxed can you be while you are doing this? Spend time on it, don't rush it. Allow yourself at least 10 minutes.
7) Your gut gets weird for no clear reason
Bloating that makes no sense. Constipation, loose stools, reflux, nausea. You “eat clean” and still feel off. Stress shifts digestion. Your body downranks rest-and-digest when it feels under threat.
Try this today
- Sit down to eat.
- Chew properly. Put the fork down.
- Breathe out once between bites.
- Sit for at least 5 minutes after you finish your meal (the longer the better)
It sounds too simple but it helps.
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